Deciding to become a stay-at-home parent is a big transition for both males and females. Since the typical stereotype is for a female to stay at home, it can be a tougher decision for a man to decide to be a stay-at-home dad. It definitely isn’t a decision you should jump into lightly. Here are a few reasons a man might want to become a stay-at-home dad:
- They like spending time with their children—Believe it or not, some men actually enjoy spending time with their children. They just want to really know their child and be really great dads. They like to help their children develop and want to be a strong role model for them and influence their development. Sometimes the woman of the family actually prefers working. If this is the case with you and your spouse, then it may be a good idea.
- Don’t want their child to be raised in daycare—While there are some really good daycares out there, there have been enough scary situations for anyone to want to think twice before putting their child in daycare. There are always sick kids in daycares and when one child gets sick, they usually all end up getting it. Then it is passed to both parents. Last, but certainly not least is the cost of daycare. On the average, daycare costs about $1,250 a month for one child for 10 workdays. Sometimes you get a discount for a second child, but as you can see, in a lot of instances, especially where the woman makes more money, entire paychecks can be taken up by daycare expenses. You can save money by not working.
- Sometimes dads need a break—If you’re working a dead-end, stressful job and have been for years, you might be ready for a break. Often working these stressful jobs can cause health problems. If you are experiencing migraines, high blood pressure, anxiety or depression being a stay-at-home dad may be what you need. That doesn’t mean it will be a piece of cake, but everyone needs a time out sometimes. If your wife’s job has a good salary and she has a chance for advancement, give her that chance.
- Become self-employed—There’s no better person to work for than you. If you’ve thought about starting your own business, being a stay-at-home dad can give you the opportunity to start one. There are many employment options you can do from home. Many dads work part-time from home while taking care of their children. Think of it as a reinvention opportunity. It’s a chance to become who you want to be.
Not all dads are domesticated. Getting used to changing diapers, cleaning the house, cooking dinner, and doing laundry can take some time. You may also have to deal with outside ridicule. After all, “the man of the house” is supposed to “bring home the bacon,” according to the old-school stereotyping. If this is really what you want to do. If you and your wife have discussed it and you feel it is the best decision for your family, then don’t let that bother you. Go for it!